Gifts for a Couple Hosting the Holidays: 8 Ideas They'll Use

The couple hosting the holidays spends the whole day feeding everyone else. They're up early, they're checking the oven while you're on your second drink, and they're the last two people awake doing dishes. A good gift for them isn't for the party. It's for after it.

Here are eight gifts for a couple hosting Thanksgiving, Christmas or New Year's that they'll actually use once the house is quiet again, plus a few things to skip and what to write on the card.

One rule before you shop

Don't bring something they have to deal with during the party. Loose flowers need a vase and a spot on a crowded counter. A dish that needs oven time throws off their timing. A gift that has to be opened, explained and admired pulls them away from twelve other guests. Anything that can sit on a shelf until tomorrow is fair game.

8 gifts for a couple hosting the holidays

1. Breakfast for the morning after

Good coffee, a bag of pastries and a jar of jam. Nobody wants to cook the day after hosting, and this solves it before they think about it. Put a tag on it that says "for tomorrow" so it doesn't end up on the dessert table.

2. A night for just the two of them

Hosting is a team sport, and the two of them barely talk to each other all day except to ask where the serving spoons went. Give them a reason to sit down together once everyone leaves. Better Together is a couples card game with 150 questions, each marked light, medium or deep, in a gift-ready box with a card for your note. It turns the quiet night after the party into a date they didn't have to plan.

3. A bottle with a note

A bottle of wine or something sparkling is a classic for a reason. The trick is the tag: "Not for tonight. Open it when we're gone." That keeps it out of the party and turns it into a toast for two. If they don't drink, a nice sparkling cider or a tin of good tea works the same way.

4. Containers they don't have to return

Every host ends up sending leftovers home in their good containers and never seeing them again. A stack of nice reusable containers solves that, and it's the gift they'll thank you for in January. Bonus points if you use one to take your own leftovers home.

5. An upgrade for the kitchen sink

Nice dish soap, a good scrub brush and a fresh set of towels. It sounds unexciting until you've washed a roasting pan at midnight. Wrap it with a bow and a joke about who's on dish duty.

6. A cookbook from a cuisine they love

If they're the kind of couple who hosts every year, they like to cook. A cookbook from a place they've traveled together, or want to visit, gives them a project for a slow weekend in the new year.

7. A photo from the night, sent later

Take a picture of the two of them at the table, then have it printed and framed a week later. Hosts almost never end up in their own photos, because they're always the ones holding the camera or carrying a dish.

8. Your two hands at the sink

It's free and it's the one they'll remember. Stay late, roll up your sleeves, and send them to the couch with whatever's left in the bottle.

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What to skip

• Scented candles and room sprays. They compete with the smell of dinner, and most hosts already have a drawer full.
• Decor for a specific holiday. It's gone into storage by the next week and out of mind until next year.
• Anything that needs assembly. Save the flat-pack gifts for birthdays.

What to write on the card

Keep it short and about them, not the food. A few that work:

• "Thank you for feeding all of us. This one's just for the two of you."
• "For tomorrow morning, when the house is quiet."
• "You two make this day feel like home. Go enjoy each other."

How to hand it over

Give it quietly at the door rather than in front of the whole group, so it doesn't turn into a moment they have to manage. If you're staying over, leave it on the kitchen counter the next morning instead.

Questions people ask

What is a good hostess gift for a couple?

Something they can use after the party: breakfast for the next morning, a bottle labeled for after the guests leave, or a game for a night in together. Skip anything that needs attention during the party, like loose flowers or a dish that needs the oven.

Do you need to bring a gift when a couple hosts the holidays?

It isn't required, but it's a kind gesture, and it doesn't need to be big. A small gift with a short note thanking them for the day goes a long way. Offering to help clean up counts too.

What is Better Together?

Better Together is a couples conversation card game. The Couples Edition has 150 questions across five categories (Reflections, Pillow Talk, Deep Dive, Future Us and Wildcard), each marked light, medium or deep, plus three action cards: Pass, Switch and Reverse. It's made for two players ages 17 and up, a full game takes 30 to 90 minutes, and it comes in a gift-ready box with a card for your note.

Visiting more than one host this season? The bundle page makes it easy to pick up a few decks at once. For more ideas, read Christmas gifts for couples or card games as Christmas gifts, and keep these Thanksgiving questions for couples handy for your own night.